Do you sometimes have thoughts that keep coming back, bringing doubt and making you question yourself? Do they hold you back from pursuing something you truly wish to do?

There are three common fear-based thoughts related to this experience that I consider extremely important to recognize. Believe me, they occur more often than we realize! These thoughts are shaped by fear and, many times, are responsible for leading us into self-sabotage. (I also invite you to read my post 3 Easy Ways to Overcome Self-Sabotage, where I share how self-sabotage often begins as a learned form of protection.)

Fear is a powerful emotion. It doesn’t just stop at a racing heart or sweaty palms, it infiltrates our thoughts. Often, fear triggers recurring mental patterns that hold us back, creating doubt, self-criticism, and unnecessary worry.

The good news is that once we recognize how fear influences our thoughts, it becomes easier to be in control. This is where self-awareness, a cornerstone of psychology, comes in.

I’m going to share with you how to gradually overcome these patterns and help you engage with the things you’ve always wished to do. Let’s explore three common fear-driven thoughts, understand their impact, and learn how to take control of them:

1. “What if I fail?”

This thought is one of fear’s most familiar disguises. It plants seeds of doubt that make you overthink or hesitate, focusing on everything that could go wrong instead of what could go right. The fear of failure often leads to self-sabotage — staying stuck, waiting for the “perfect” moment, or giving up before you begin.

How to shift it:
Reframe failure as part of growth. Instead of asking, “What if I fail?” try asking, 

“What might I learn if it doesn’t go as planned?”

This small change turns fear into curiosity — and opens the door to self-trust.

2. “I’m not good enough.”

Fear of inadequacy often hides behind this thought. It tends to appear when you face new challenges, compare yourself to others, or step into the unknown. This inner voice can quietly drain confidence and reinforce the belief that you don’t deserve success or happiness.

How to shift it:
Challenge that story by remembering your strengths and moments of courage. Write down times when you’ve overcome something difficult — no matter how small. Then, practice speaking to yourself as you would to someone you love: with patience, kindness, and understanding.

3. “Something bad will happen.”

This fear-based thought is rooted in our instinct to protect ourselves from uncertainty. The mind leaps ahead, predicting worst-case scenarios as if preparing for them could prevent pain.
But the truth is, we can’t control everything — and constantly anticipating danger only keeps the body in a state of alert.

How to shift it:
Ground yourself in the present. Ask: 

“What evidence do I have that something bad will happen?”

Practicing mindfulness — or simply noticing your surroundings, your breath, or the sensations in your body — helps bring you back to what is real, rather than what is feared.

How Therapy Can Help

Therapy can help you identify how fear has shaped your thoughts and behaviors over time. It offers a safe space to explore where these fears began — and to gently rewrite the beliefs that keep you from moving forward. With guidance, you can learn to listen to fear as information, not as truth, and build new patterns grounded in safety, trust, and self-compassion.

If you’d like to take that next step, you can explore the Therapy Options I offer.

Also, if you’d like to explore related themes to this text, here are a few of my posts you may enjoy:

• Limiting Beliefs: The Invisible Lenses Through Which We See the World
• What Emotional Suppression Really Does to You
• Struggling With Your Emotions? Here’s How Therapy Can Help
• 3 Gentle Ways to Overcome Self-Sabotage

With warmth,

Andressa